The argument I've made repeatedly is this:
People have many sources of advantage and disadvantage. Some of us aren't born with good looks or musical talent. Some of us might have been born with those, but never got to develop them because we were born into disadvantage greater than those disadvantages. A singer that goes undiscovered is just a what could have been.
Inequality is the most natural of all states in society. There is no reason at all to believe that intellect, ability, or "privilege" would be evenly distributed, never mind "fairly" (since fair means something very different than even distribution these days).
The question is not whether Black Americans are unfairly disadvantaged in the US. Of course they are. But so are so many others for reasons completely beyond their control. A white kid born to a poor white trailer park single mom living with grandma on benefits is starting out with a lot of disadvantage.
So while I think there's a credible argument to make that white privilege isn't a thing, my argument is that *even if it is a thing* is not THE THING. White privilege won't take that poor kid from the trailer park and get him to law school at Harvard. Nope. If he's going to get there, he's going to have to get there the same way every other disadvantaged kid gets there. Hard work and good luck. Only in the case of Harvard, he will have a MORE difficult time gaining entry specifically because of his race. So being white is anti-privilege in that case.
"White privilege" doesn't cause your parents to stay married, avoid drugs, or stay out of gangs. Nope. And when you dive into the so-called racial disparities, you find that they are actually disparities of *behavior*. If you compare the outcomes of a black kid born to middle class parents who are married to each other and have stayed married, you find that any disparity in that kid's chances of college admission, future income, etc are statically indistinguishable from a white kid similarly situated.
The predictors of success: educational attainment, no single parenthood, avoiding incarceration-- all are MUCH larger factors than race. So much that race doesn't really matter other than it seems to be a predictor of behaviors that cause your life to suck.
It's beyond harmful to tell young black kids that the reason their life stinks is that the system is rigged-- that it isn't that Daddy is absent and Mommy is stuck in her job and spending extra money on scratch-offs and buying new cars and expensive phones she cannot afford, depending on a grandma for childcare and struggling to get by.
But after generations of mind-numbing nonsense being drilled into kids that they are all victims somewhere on the hierarchy of victimhood, nobody believes their actions matter. So why make good decisions? Why have delayed gratification? YOU CAN'T FIGHT THE SYSTEM, RIGHT?
Then when SURPRISE their life decisions deliver to them the consequences they inevitably do, people are totally unprepared for that and get indignant and angry. Why, I can't BELIEVE they fired me-- the one who's always late and skipping shifts without telling anyone-- instead of that other person who's always on time and cheerful. THE SYSTEM IS RIGGED!
Brietbart said it best-- politics is downstream of culture. It's about time we started recognizing that truth, because if you don't engage in the culture war that defends the Western values that created our prosperity and freedom, THEY WILL DISAPPEAR. You may not want to fight a culture war, but that's not up to you-- the culture has already declared war on you. Your options are fight it or cower and give it all away.
You worded it much better than I could have. Right on.