Fat, gray, and with a trunk full of elephant snot?
So you've seen the ones I "date", huh?
Fat, gray, and with a trunk full of elephant snot?
Does the MIL know you guys arent on the same page? Threaten her with a Vegas Elope trip. That may change her attitude. If not, I say go to Vegas, do your thing, and come back and have a reception.
Good Luck!
Hate to tell you, if they're paying for it, they get to make SOME decisions. The only way you can ensure that you get exactly what you want is to pay for it yourself.
We were able to reduce the scale and grandeur of things, but our wedding still cost over $25k for a 1:00 ceremony and a 3:00 afternoon reception with a buffet meal and bar package for less than 100 guests. It was a catholic wedding. I am an atheist and my wife wasn't practicing. That cost a LOT of money and a LOT of meetings with priests and catechists .
Good luck.
This is about what your soon to be wife wants. It is HER day. If you have communicated this to your MIL and she still wants it all her way or her mom's way, tell her you will take care of it and make your OWN plans.
Sooner or later you are going to have to put on your big boy pants and deal with this woman and her mom. BREAK THE CHAIN! Tell her in a calm voice how things are going to be to make her daugter happy. If she does not go along, pay for it yourself, arrange it how you want and invite them to come for a wonderful time. If they actually refuse to come because it was not "their wedding" then so be it. You are going to have to deal with them and change their behavior eventually, so start it off on the right foot now. Tough love.
Good luck,
DanO
That's funny DanO. I had to look and see if I was on the joke of the day thread.
I still say run. Get out of it while you can. You don't want to sell me death sticks, You want to go home and re-think your life.
You don't have someone that loves you do you?
Boy, I'm a little worried that your fiance is so upset. That shows that she is still very vulnerable to doing what mommy wants. If she was more mature she would not be struggling with what makes mom happy. This could be a HUGE problem in your relationship. I think you are strong enough to tell momsie how it's going to be but what about your sweet punkin? I see a lot of strife for your future wife and it could strain your marriage.
Then she wants one of her friends to do the photography when we have somebody in mind who is a professional.