Just remember, the woman you're about to divorce is not the same woman you married. I have several friends who tried to "play nice" and lost everything (or at least most of it). Protect yourself.
Without knowing the specifics of the OP's situation, I can say that once a relationship is over, it's usually over. I fought long and hard to keep and maintain my relationship, but in the end when he decided he was done there really wasn't anything I could do. Protecting oneself is the next step. He ended up costing me plenty in shared expenses including medical bills after he had a car accident. Apparently in Indiana under some circumstances, a spouse can be liable for another spouse's medical bills even though we were in the process of divorce.
I should clarify, there was a time span of about 5 days between the "news" and my question on here. I'm surprised to see this many have responded to this. I've consulted an attorney but have not retained him yet, and yes the guns are out of the house. She's agreed to counseling separately at first with the possibility of joint sessions later. I'm not down with the whole year long separation thing she is thinking of, IMO it's a waste of my time. I'll file for divorce before waiting a year to see if she still "has feelings" for me. What really grinds my gears is that we have two small kids (6 and 3) and they will be the ones to ultimately suffer, not me or her. But she doesn't seem to be thinking of them and is acting selfishly. I don't want to get into too much here because of potential repercussions, but I do love her and don't want to see this happen. Not much I can do I suppose.
I should clarify, there was a time span of about 5 days between the "news" and my question on here. I'm surprised to see this many have responded to this. I've consulted an attorney but have not retained him yet, and yes the guns are out of the house. She's agreed to counseling separately at first with the possibility of joint sessions later. I'm not down with the whole year long separation thing she is thinking of, IMO it's a waste of my time. I'll file for divorce before waiting a year to see if she still "has feelings" for me. What really grinds my gears is that we have two small kids (6 and 3) and they will be the ones to ultimately suffer, not me or her. But she doesn't seem to be thinking of them and is acting selfishly. I don't want to get into too much here because of potential repercussions, but I do love her and don't want to see this happen. Not much I can do I suppose.
All the guy asked for was financial advice. I hope he has someone else to ask because reading all this crap will likely do him no good.
It is easier to deal with children then some of the "adults" on here. ugh.....
I never wanted my son to think badly of his mother, but last night I told him some things he deserved to know. It was hard for me to relive it, but I had to do it for his sake. He wound up hugging me. I'm gonna have some tears now, don't mind me.
Sherwood Schwartz is the anti Christ.......................that blended family BS has destroyed the soul of many a man.
the divorceI will tell you one thing for sure since I am in the middle of a divorce myself: In Indiana the law is biased towards the woman.