Odd things women, very easily influenced by others of misery.
Translation: There is a miserable girlfriend or family member that is greasing the wheels from the shadows.
A few days ago my wife tells me she's unhappy and wants to separate for awhile.
We've already split our bills up; cell phones, credit cards, she's moving out and getting an apartment so I'm taking over the mortgage payments.
You need to file for a legal separation. And do it soon! Regardless of how amicable things may be or seem. I can tell you from experience. Talk to the financial institution you have the lease with. And I would also consult a divorce attorney. It's COA time (cover your a$$) It's easier to undo later when COA now.
We've already split our bills up; cell phones, credit cards, she's moving out and getting an apartment so I'm taking over the mortgage payments.
Separation sucks and is most often a waste of valuable time in a life limited by time.....waste none of it on a loosing situation. Let her move on and get this over with.
I have 2 "X" wives. I tried both times to make things right and honor my vows.....waste of time. When a woman wants to go....let her.
If she does not want to be with you, move on.
Separation sucks and is most often a waste of valuable time in a life limited by time.....waste none of it on a loosing situation. Let her move on and get this over with.
I have 2 "X" wives. I tried both times to make things right and honor my vows.....waste of time. When a woman wants to go....let her.
If she does not want to be with you, move on.
There are reasons.Divorce is a horrible, nasty thing. I have gone through it once and the others are spot on with the above advice. I'm looking at this from the female perspective, and would have to agree with the others about filing now. What is the point of waiting a year or more and having your life in a holding pattern? Has she proposed going to counseling? If not, I would also recommend going, with or without her. If she will go with you and be honest in the sessions, you may gain some insight as to what her reasons are for the separation and whether or not here is another party involved in her life already. If she is not willing to go, then what is the point of the separation? If she isn't willing to attend counseling, what makes you think she will return to the relationship after signing a lease on an apartment and establishing a separate life on her own?
You need to protect yourself...financially and emotionally. Long-term separation is likely to end up in a divorce anyway so why drag it out?
If you want to keep the house and can afford to buy out her equity, then do so. If not, as the others have said...put it on the market and sell it and move on. When I divorced, our house was sold and the profits split.
I am sorry you are in this situation, but as the others have said. Life is too short and you deserve to be happy.
In addition to the journal, I would save receipts on house repairs and anything that you pay for on her behalf or that would result in her getting a bigger settlement in the event his ends in divorce. Call a lawyer.