Well the other part of the story I took her to the outlet mall afterwards. The whole positive reward thing.
That is the whole deal to this situation. You have to give to get......
Well the other part of the story I took her to the outlet mall afterwards. The whole positive reward thing.
8 years of marriage so far. Been trying everything to get her to go shooting. She hates them but has no reason to. Her dad and brother own shotguns but she keeps calling me a doomsday prepper and other funny things. She especially hates it when I carry. She wasn't like this prior to marriage. She wasn't outspoken, just indifferent.
At my house "going to the range" is code for "stop and get ice cream on the way home".
Her fear would have been developed by traumatic experience (obviously.) Unfortunately, that usually develops the strongest fear in a person (phobia.) Oddly enough, I have come across those who've been shot and did not develop a phobia from it. There are many other circumstances to consider in such a situation, but I'd be glad to take on the challenge. I haven't worked with a person yet whom I've not altered their perspective on firearms for the better.I know a woman who got shot in the face when she was 12, by a family member. Any thoughts about overcoming her fear of guns?
There is a LOT here that makes more sense to me now. So, does she react in the presence of/ or "threatened" by the possible presence of a firearm? How so? When you say she's "opposed" to guns, how so? Is she religious of any sort? Did the shooter in her incident have the INTENT to do such harm, or was it accidental?Thanks for your responses. For a while I was wondering whether I was alone. When she first told me about it, I was speechless. Like you, I felt like that was a "darn good reason" not to like guns. It makes me wonder: many of us got into guns because we don't want to be victims, but if we become victims (i.e., shot by a bad guy), will we still feel the same about guns?
To respect her privacy, I don't want to give too many details. She's from a family of shooters, so she knows that guns don't just suddenly jump up and bite people by themselves. I'm guessing she's probably even shot guns herself at one point. But because of what an a**h*le did to her, she is firmly opposed to guns. On the other hand, it may please you to know that she went on to have a productive life, though firearms still elicit a really visceral reaction from her.
Excellent news Sarge!Great news guys! Our first range trip together is next week. I tried bribery, getting friends to go, and trying to reason with her. Although she says she won't enjoy it, she agreed to go. I dont know what swayed her, since it was pretty much the same tactics as usual. Maybe it was just the repetitive attempts that made her give in. At least it's a step in the right direction. I will let you all know how it goes. Thanks and Semper Fi.
I tried to take the wife one time, she got mad when we wanted her to hold the targets.
You forgot the purple didn't you?I tried to take the wife one time, she got mad when we wanted her to hold the targets.
Well, duh.
You have to show her by example first, doof.
You forgot the purple didn't you?