My wife was the same way. I took her with me to a local gun shop (a surprise to her) and we looked at a few guns. One of the staff was a very knowledgeable young lady that talked my wife through her fear of guns and answered her questions. By the time we left, my wife had held multiple guns and she had learned the proper way to hold a gun. It qas a risky move to kind of trick her into that situation....but she is much more comfortable now, but still won't shoot with me. The good thing is that after that instance she stopped giving me a hard time about guns and I have purchased one gun since that without any grief.