As does mine. Except...
Paid off cars, student loans for kids, new furniture, painted the whole interior of the house ,new deck, new screened porch, cruise big tv and new sound system for the whole house and everyday living expenses.We need to know more. How was this done? Where did the money go?
Paid off cars, student loans for kids, new furniture, painted the whole interior of the house ,new deck, new screened porch, cruise big tv and new sound system for the whole house and everyday living expenses.
That should cover it
So the spouse would certainly know of these expenditures. Would they not be questioned? Just trying to get a handle on this.
My wife is aware of everything I do. Money spent/saved/plans for money. All of it. She does the same with me.
BBI.....you and I both would know if there was an addiction as in drugs/gambling etc. Even a spending addiction.
If you are living with someone and this goes on right under your nose there is something missing. JMHO
Probably, but its always easier to see when your an outsider. We all have comfortable lies we want to believe, and sometimes the mental gymnastics we can do to stay in blissful ignorance are pretty incredible when viewed by the dispassionate outsider.
. Extended family member had power of attorney and abused it. We stopped it and have started the recovery process.I think there are some critical details missing here.
Were the in-laws willing parties or was the money stolen from the in-laws?
"Took" is an ambiguous word.
If your in-laws came to you and said, "build a new deck, this one isn't safe for the kids", and they wanted to pay for it as a gift, is it wrong to take the money? Absolutely not
So then the question must be answered, would be wrong to not tell you spouse about such a thing? What if the in-laws really wanted the source of the gift to remain private because, for whatever reason, such an act could change the spouse's view/thoughts of them? Is it wrong to hide such a thing?
That being said, if "took" in this case was stole, borrowed without intent to repay, borrowed without means to repay, etc then yes, this is messed up.
FWIW, I've "took" a lot of money from my parents. It was all in the form of gifts, loans, etc. Yes, my spouse knew about it, but there are matters involving my parents that I do NOT share with my spouse simply for the fact that they are my parent's matters and have nothing to do with her.
. Extended family member had power of attorney and abused it. We stopped it and have started the recovery process.