My heart felt condolences. I lost my younger brother in the same manner, with zero warning. You and your famialy will be in our prayers.Started to write this post a few times so please bear with me. Three weeks ago we got a call to tell us our youngest grandson(13) took his own life. To say we are devastated is a gross understatement. Never in a million years would we have seen this coming. Was just talking about him being so well adjusted and strong. We took him kayaking, taught him firearm safety, took to movies, he stayed here at grandmas/grandpas house as he was growing up a lot. He was avid in sports-baseball, football. Was well liked at school. Always had a smile and a laugh(even for corny grandpa jokes). We are just at a loss. We have been taking care of his older brother(14) most days since. Him and I have had several long talks, surprising how mature he is. He is dealing with it well, we keep him occupied as much as possible. Football practice helps with that a lot as most of his friends are there. Wife and I have our days, sometimes I go from why?? to anger at him. Cant understand this. Not a child into trouble or drugs. He did send a message to his friend. I'll leave it at that. I guess I'm just trying to think out loud. Thank you for listening. There really are no words to say for something like this. Maybe if this help someone to reach out to their own child/grandchild and talk to them even when you think everything is all right then I guess it helps. Again thanks for listening.
Sometimes the reasons are so complex and confusing it can drive you insane. Suicide often doesn’t follow a linear or typical path. It’s a desire to end overwhelming complexity- that decision can be made over years or literally in the span of a minute. Playing the “if” game is fruitless. Tell his story, honor his legacy by speaking to others about his life. Encourage others to have talks with their kids about suicide and how they feel. I’m so sorry for your loss, God bless you.Started to write this post a few times so please bear with me. Three weeks ago we got a call to tell us our youngest grandson(13) took his own life. To say we are devastated is a gross understatement. Never in a million years would we have seen this coming. Was just talking about him being so well adjusted and strong. We took him kayaking, taught him firearm safety, took to movies, he stayed here at grandmas/grandpas house as he was growing up a lot. He was avid in sports-baseball, football. Was well liked at school. Always had a smile and a laugh(even for corny grandpa jokes). We are just at a loss. We have been taking care of his older brother(14) most days since. Him and I have had several long talks, surprising how mature he is. He is dealing with it well, we keep him occupied as much as possible. Football practice helps with that a lot as most of his friends are there. Wife and I have our days, sometimes I go from why?? to anger at him. Cant understand this. Not a child into trouble or drugs. He did send a message to his friend. I'll leave it at that. I guess I'm just trying to think out loud. Thank you for listening. There really are no words to say for something like this. Maybe if this help someone to reach out to their own child/grandchild and talk to them even when you think everything is all right then I guess it helps. Again thanks for listening.
This is spot on.... Suicide often doesn’t follow a linear or typical path. It’s a desire to end overwhelming complexity ...