her dad commited suicide, shot him self in the head. So I understand her misguided hate tward guns but I cant live with that. I am sorry for her but I will not lay down on this issue. if that meens I let her go than so be it.
Well, that changes things a bit. A wee bit, not a lot, but some.
After you tell her you won't be bullied, ask her these two questions:
"Are you afraid I'm going to do myself or you harm with them?"
She'll probably answer in the negative regardless of how she really feels, so follow up with this: "Then what is it you're afraid of?"