I am amazed at how many people so flippantly tell someone else to get divorced.
I'm not. Around half of all marriages end in divorce. Many posters on here likely were raised in a family where their parents were divorced. Half of the posters on this forum who have been married likely have been divorced. Nature of how things are now. As a person who has been married for six years now, I can tell you that sometimes the other half does change. Sometimes I hear stories of how people are one way until they land what they want (spouse), then all of a sudden, they change. Sometimes the change is minimal and won't harm the marriage, other times it is bad and destroys the marriage.