Had something very similar.I know many of you don't have the time to read my post in it's entirety so I pulled out a quick read defining moment that had haunted me until I put it on my exit interview.
This incident was a defining moment for me. I guess you might say this was my aha moment that I was working for the devil and needed to work on getting out.
Maybe this will help explain to some of you why it's still torments me. And perhaps less of you can tell me to just get over it.
Sorry guys this was pretty rotten and still makes me tear up sometimes when I think about it. Which is also why I just copy paste from the exit interview instead of actually wanting to rewrite and relive those moments. So here goes.
- My mother died unexpectedly in December 2018. In January 2019 I found out my sister’s cancer was no longer treatable and she might have 6 months to live.
- I was trying to take care of my mom’s house and pets while also trying to spend as much time as I could with my sister.
- The end of January 2019 EnablerC and Bean were visiting. During the day my niece called to tell me the doctor said her mother was dying and they didn’t think she had much time left. I was crushed. I was heartbroken. I just lost my mom and now I was losing my favorite sister.
- I was trying to maintain my composure. I was trying to be strong and not to cry. I held it together for the most part until after Bean left. Then DevilD told me I had to start working 50 hours a week. I told him my sister was dying and how overwhelmed I was. He told me it didn’t matter. He told me I had to do it.
- I asked him how he could expect me to work 50 hours when he didn’t even work 40 hours a week. He got angry at me and told me it was none of my business.
- He called EnablerC in the room. EnablerC chastised me for crying. He told me a manager is not supposed to let their employees see their emotions. I told EnablerC my sister was dying and how overwhelmed I was. I tried to tell him how much I needed those three hours on Thursdays. EnablerC told me two or more times that he would accept my resignation if I couldn’t handle it.
How do you like those cookies guys? The story doesn't end there though it just gets worse Tell me that wouldn't eat at your soul just a little bit too.
I lost my mom, my sister and my brother-in-law within an eight month period. I didn't receive a single sympathy card. All I got was harassed and tormented.
So yes, those bastards are still living free in my head.
I'm sure a lot of it is unresolved grief enhanced by their horrible behavior.
Brother was on life support. Boss was bugging me to get back in my truck as they were getting very busy. I told him where I was and what I was doing. Family meeting as to his future. He made a few remarks and hung up.
Next day I am at his bedside preparing to see the machines shut down when the phone rings. Its the boss. He is jumping my ass wanting to know where I am and so on.
I again explained that he was full aware of my situation and had been informed in full detail multiple times. He responded with we need to get these calls ran to which I disconnected the call. He called back asking if we had been cut off........yup, again same thing then I shut the phone off.
We saw my brother off to his maker. The next day my truck was at the shop devoid of my tools.
Life is to short for this crap.