I'm new here but I delt with the same thing. I've been carring for about 8mo now and the first few were really tough. I have small kids and bending over to handle them freaked me out. I was always checking to make sure it was covered so knowone would see. After a while I got used to the fact that it was there and only I knew about it. My wife HATES that I carry but usually forgets unless an embrace tips her off. If she doesn't notice nobody else will either. Just keep trying and you'll find the spot that fits you best.