hornadylnl
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- Nov 19, 2008
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Now that he added more info since this last post my views have changed.
Regardless of what info he's added, how does it change your situation?
Now that he added more info since this last post my views have changed.
Who else is going to say "pull the plug" when you're old and gray?I have absolutely no idea why anyone would actually WANT to have kids.
Who else is going to say "pull the plug" when you're old and gray?
And you don't think that goes against the grain of the very principles this country was founded on? Forced vasectomy and community service for having children? Wow... that's really classy...I realize that there are a lot of people who can't afford to have kids that do, but that needs to be their problem not anyone else's. The only one who should have to pay a cent for a child are the parents of the child. The real question is, if someone has a child that can't afford it, how do you make it financially only hurt the parent and not the child without burdening the tax payers. This is why welfare needs to come with a mandatory vasectomy and a mandatory 40 hr's a week community service.
And you don't think that goes against the grain of the very principles this country was founded on? Forced vasectomy and community service for having children? Wow... that's really classy...
This country was not founded on taxes either, actually that was what we were trying to get away from, and yet here we are. Your argument is invalid. And only welfare needs to come with a mandatory vasectomy and community service. The people of this country are starting to become sick of giving something for nothing just to have a new generation get raised on getting something for nothing. So since you either didn't understand what I said, or didn't read it, that part of your argument is also invalid.
I haven't read this whole thread, but my two cents are, if you want to have kids, have as many as you can afford. If you don't want to have kids, right on too. I have no children, but I come from a large family. I know that at least at this pont in my life, I don't have what it takes to raise a child. And I'm not necessarily talking about resources, money and whatnot, but I have NO drive or desire at this point to maintain accountability for another human being, I just don't have it in me. It's not a decision that I came to lightly either. Children can best be described as a bottomless pit of need (they are also one of life's greatest joys too), and I would be doing a disservice to the child to have one at this point. It's not selfish I just know that I don't have it in me to care for a child. Some people have the capacity others do not. There's no shame in it.
We've had one kid, and we're pretty much decided that's where we're stopping. She's 7 years old, and we're happy with the family we have. I'd almost be upfront and say that we feel that way for selfish reasons. We don't want to start over with the baby stuff, and we're just now to the point with our daughter where we're really gelling as a family. A new baby would upset the balance. I don't want to judge others decisions because I can't walk in their shoes. That's their burden to bear. But as for me, I look forward to being 45 with an empty nest.
Sucks to be MiniJet.Kids need siblings.
Kids need siblings.
Regardless of what info he's added, how does it change your situation?
Sucks to be MiniJet.
Why, CM? I don't think there's a right number and wrong number of kids. One is just right for some families, just like none or four or ten is right for some families.
Instead of coming off as stuck up and selfish to me, because he said he enjoyed living responsibility free and saving his pennies as reasons for not wanting kids. If he had said we tried and medical reasons prevent us from having kids then I wouldn't of thought what I originally thought, since my wife and I have issues trying to conceive and seeing a post like that coming up to our own, and conclusions I'm sure you could see where we are coming from.
It doesn't have to suck. I was an only child, and I never missed having siblings.
Funny how this thread has evolved. Without airing all the family's dirty laundry, I know kids can be a blessing for some (like me) and a curse (for my dad's dad's family). I know siblings can be your best friend (like my brother) and someone you loathe and die never having contact with them again (my dad's brother). People are people; some are wonderful and some -- not so much. How you view the situation certainly seems to depend on your own experiences.