Being a Grandpa is the absolute greatest thing in the world. My daughter has given me two. My son zero. Guess which one I like the best now?
Being a Grandpa is the absolute greatest thing in the world. My daughter has given me two. My son zero. Guess which one I like the best now?
Jeremy, my wife and I married at age 24, fresh out of graduate school and barely into our first jobs.My wife and I have been actively choosing to not grow our family outside of us and whatever critters are around. We are both in our late twenties, no previous spouses for either of us, no children for either of us. We've been married for four years, quite happily I might add. My wife has a MS in Biology and works in Cytogenetics at one of the big Chicago hospitals, I am self-employed.
With the way the world seems to be heading... I really don't know. Neither of us really have the desire for kids honestly. We have found our current lifestyle to be quite responsibility free, flexible and financially comfortable. Neither of us really want to give that up.
Are my wife and I crazy or is anyone else finding themselves in a similar position?
There are douche bags on both sides of the fence.
With the way the world seems to be heading... I really don't know. Neither of us really have the desire for kids honestly. We have found our current lifestyle to be quite responsibility free, flexible and financially comfortable. Neither of us really want to give that up.
Are my wife and I crazy or is anyone else finding themselves in a similar position?
Parenting is the most important thing we can do in this life. We look at putting as much "Good" into this world as we can. We do that through these children.
Jeremy, my wife and I married at age 24, fresh out of graduate school and barely into our first jobs.
We had 1 daughter . . . 10+ years later.
During our 'childless' years we traveled a lot, mostly to places warm with beaches, often island beaches. Rather than stretching our finances we bought a small house and lived BELOW our income level. We had a modest house in Highland and we SAVED BOATLOADS of cash. 10 years later we were ready for a big house and a child. Worked out great for us. When we were finally ready we built our new home (still live there) moved in with 66% equity, and 3 days after having a baby moved into the new house.
So far its worked out pretty well.
Celebrated our 28th anniversary this spring.
My advice to you is to follow your path but be open to the future.
Live your life, save your money, retire early (I formally retired at age 47) and if a kid or kids are in your future then let it happen.
You have always impressed me as a smart, hard working guy who can figure things out. You will figure out your life too. Just keep doing what you are doing. My guess is that if/when you have a child it will be wanted and loved. And my guess also is that you, like me, will retire early but you'll never stop "working" and your child, if you ever have one, will be well provided for.
I hit SnappyD with reppage, too... "nosey ****er" made me laugh.