I'm partial to the 9mm Glocks. The 19 is my favorite to shoot, but the 26 is easier to conceal. It's a little more difficult to shoot, but it's a trade off there for ability to conceal it. I have small hands too and the Glocks are comfortable for me.
That said, play around because I also find my brother's full size 1911 comfortable to handle until the recoil starts hurting my hands (I groom dogs for a living and my hands suck). I also like his 9mm Baby Eagle. It's not small enough I'd want one to carry, but I do like it. My dad's Springfield XDM is not in any way comfortable or fun for me to shoot. I don't know what it is, but it is very awkward and I don't like it at all.
That said, play around because I also find my brother's full size 1911 comfortable to handle until the recoil starts hurting my hands (I groom dogs for a living and my hands suck). I also like his 9mm Baby Eagle. It's not small enough I'd want one to carry, but I do like it. My dad's Springfield XDM is not in any way comfortable or fun for me to shoot. I don't know what it is, but it is very awkward and I don't like it at all.