You didn't say what revolver you are using now so I'm not sure what type of recoil would be to much. I would assume that she would want a compact so I would suggest a Kahr PM9 or CW9, Ruger LC9 or a Sig Sauer P938 for a 9mm. A Kahr P380 or CW380, Ruger LCP, Sig Sauer P238. Possibly a small .38 Special Revolver.
If you live around Noble County I could let you and your boy friend shoot the Sig P938, P238 the Ruger LCP or a Taurus 85 .38 spl.
If you live around Noble County I could let you and your boy friend shoot the Sig P938, P238 the Ruger LCP or a Taurus 85 .38 spl.