While, homosexuality is a sin, I dont think the excludes people from attending church. A preacher should welcome them with open arms, but should no mince words about how our faith views the subject. To us non-clergy, it's none of our business, and certainly none of the govt's business. That issue is something that is taken up with that person, and God.
The problem is introduced when the pastor/church start condoning sin in the name of being inclusive. It sounds like you pretty much have the right answer, but my concern is that two different subjects are being discussed. I certainly would not make them unwelcome, but most certainly would not water down the message, condone sin, or put such persons in positions of leadership.
I agree. I think God wants you bringing his word to all--especially the sinners. But I'm pretty sure he doesn't want you condoning the sins.